Brotherhood is more than just a word; it’s a lifeline—a deep connection rooted in unity, loyalty, and shared experience. While some find it naturally within their families or social circles, many queer men grow up feeling isolated, ostracized, and disconnected. The wounds of exclusion, bullying, and internalized shame leave a void that traditional relationships often fail to fill.
Through my work, I aim to cultivate a unique form of brotherhood that brings queer men together in a powerful & loving way—allowing them to become fearlessly, shamelessly, and doubtlessly themselves. This is not about romantic love or conventional male friendships; it’s about creating spaces where men can experience acceptance and inclusion from one another, regardless of age, skin color, dick size, socioeconomic status, or cultural identity. Queer brotherhood is about building a deep bond rooted in shared experiences, overcoming adversity, and celebrating individuality. It’s a kinship that transcends blood lines, focused on mutual support, emotional (and even erotic) connection, and the collective pursuit of acceptance and equality.
My Journey: From Isolation to Brotherhood
You would probably be shocked to know that less than a decade ago I was still trapped, shame-bound and isolated in the closet with a lot of religious baggage from my Southern Baptist upbringing in Alabama that I had not even begun to unpack. When I was a teen in high school, I was not comfortable or vulnerable with ANYONE because,
I was hiding a lot of things
I didn’t feel genuinely comfortable/compatible with the girls or the boys
My beliefs caused me to live in a constant state of low-grade panic, paranoia and self-criticism
At least I had show choir, but even the choir boys were closeted with conservative Christian families!
As a driven person, I did my best to be cool, stay healthy, please my parents (and God) and have friends without betraying my true Self, but mostly I spent my free time alone - reading, creating art, studying, crushin´ it at the gym (and also working there)…I stayed busy as a way of HIDING. I was trying to be perfect because I felt so deeply flawed, ashamed and afraid, and I successfully fooled a lot of people...This continued into college, as my own gay panic & internalized homophobia intensified, isolated me and drove me insane. On some level I wanted to join a fraternity, but all of the options at my traditional university were a HARD NO for me - couldn’t even consider them.
As a queerdo in conservative, vanilla world, I struggled to create a network of safe friends that I could chill with and truly relate to…especially males.
I had already started to seek peace & healing through yoga & meditation for a few years before having my grand sexual awakening, but that only opened me up just enough to start doing the work. When I finally ditched the Christian programming and moral conditioning I was raised on at 25, I was living in North Carolina, far-removed from any significant queer culture (and other gay men)…and I had a lot to learn. That’s when I became aware of my trauma for the first time and started taking my healing, deconditioning and re-learning very seriously. I started seeing a therapist, listening to high-vibe music and experimenting with psychedelics & sexuality - ALL the forbidden things. I finally started pursuing my authenticity and joy my usual sense of urgency instead of hiding and beating myself up...and that's when I met my beloved partner, and we continued our healing journeys together.
So the past decade has been intense for me. I have experienced tons of highs & lows and tried ALL the things I used to say I would never do. I have gained so much experiential wisdom through this trial & error lifestyle, that I have become passionate about helping other men to take the leap and begin their own healing journeys. There is nothing that brings me more joy & satisfaction, and it’s also how I continue to learn & grow!
The point of doing the work is to make it to the party sooner.
What is a Rainbro?
I have come to realize that my innate draw to healing, spirituality, nature, and authentic brotherhood with other men puts me in a small minority that I call “rainbros”. We are rare, but not as rare as most of us think - just spread out, and thus difficult to find…but thanks to the world wide web & social media, we are finally starting to crawl up out of the shadows to connect & heal with each other!
Rainbros often feel alone in the world because we don’t relate to the values of mainstream culture or follow the rules, but we desire to find a tribe. Sadly, many rainbros get discouraged and give up, continuing to live in isolation. Others may be able to disguise themselves enough to fit in, but at the expense of their authenticity & true purpose - neither is a happy or fully realized life. It’s tragic for the rainbros, but also a huge loss for the world when such magical, hilarious, intelligent creatures are not free to be and share themselves!
The importance of friendship in the GBTQ community (Fraternitaaaaay)
The Rainbro soul craves connection in ways that go beyond casual friendships. We seek deep, vulnerable, and liberating bonds with other men—relationships where we can sing, dance, meditate, hike, build, philosophize, and even share intimate experiences without fear or judgment.
Unfortunately, mainstream culture often discourages men from embracing these kinds of connections, reinforcing toxic masculinity and emotional suppression. But the truth is, queer men need each other. Studies show that strong social connections significantly improve mental health, reduce anxiety, and enhance overall well-being. As rainbros, we must reclaim our right to deep, platonic, and spiritual male companionship.
Radical Brotherhood: Ways to Get Involved
Because I believe so deeply in the power of queer brotherhood, I offer various community-driven experiences that help men foster connection, healing, and self-expression.
Group Naked Yoga Classes
Beyond the physical benefits of yoga, these classes provide a space for men to embrace body positivity, creative movement, and even mindful self-pleasure. The motto? “Come nervous, leave shameless.” Find me on the schedule at Naked Warrior Yoga! OR invite me to be your private guide!
Naked Brotherhood Chat on Telegram
An 18+ private space where you can express yourself boldly, share your journey (and body), explore fun challenges, discuss queer wellness, and support one another outside of formal classes & workshops. Click here to request in (you must be responsive and have a profile picture that shows your face).
Monthly Heart Circles
Inspired by the Radical Faerie tradition, these gatherings create a sacred space for men to engage in deep, authentic sharing and mindful listening—offering a sense of belonging rarely found in daily life. Learn more about how to get involved HERE.
Brotherhood Retreats (Rainbro Camp)
The ultimate in-person bro-bonding experience. These retreats bring rainbros together for transformative workshops, naked yoga, nature immersion, and activities designed to push boundaries, heal wounds, and create lifelong connections…because fun is healing, and healing can be fun! It’s everything your younger Self wishes summer camp—or a fraternity—could be. Explore upcoming retreats!
Final Thoughts: A Call to Brotherhood
Queer brotherhood is more than a concept—it’s a movement. It’s about reclaiming the deep, soulful connections that have been denied to us. It’s about healing old wounds, celebrating our uniqueness, and standing together in love and solidarity.
If you’ve ever felt alone, misunderstood, or disconnected, know this: you are not alone. There is a tribe of rainbros out there waiting to embrace you.
So I hope this article has inspired you to take the leap into Rainbro Universe! Let’s create a fraternity where every queer man feels safe, seen, and truly at home. Thanks for reading!
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